Across the UK, rates of anxiety are on the up and it can leave those who suffer from the condition feeling isolated and alone. Anxiety causes many people to feel confused about what is happening, and interferes with how they think and feel, often worrying that something awful is about to happen. At Newcastle Psychologist & Counselling, our counsellors and psychologists believe that the more you understand your anxiety; the better equipped you can become to learn the best coping strategies to manage it.
Our Newcastle based counsellors and psychologists are experienced and skilled with helping people deal with anxiety symptoms as well as the effect they might have. Symptoms can be physical or psychological and include increased heart rate, sweating, trembling, weakness, insomnia, increased feelings of stress, fear, social isolation and/or panic to name a few. These can be felt in any part of the body, taking over your thoughts, feelings and behaviours and leaving you feeling confused as to what is happening.
Often these symptoms occur as a result of catastrophic thoughts ("something bad is going to happen!") or being in situations similar to previous traumatic experiences. Once the cycle of catastophic thoughts, anxiety and physical symptoms begin, this can maintain our anxiety leading to an escalation and panic.
Know Your Symptoms
While many people experience symptoms rooted in thoughts, emotions, and their body, others might experience anxiety in just one or two areas. For example, some people are plagued with anxious thoughts but experience none of the physical symptoms. Often people start to behave in a way that keeps the anxiety going (for example, avoiding places they feel anxious). This in itself can lead to further problems as your sense of confidence and ability to cope can also shrink, as well as giving you a lower quality of life.
One effective approach to managing anxiety is to be able to interrupt the cycle once it starts - using positive self-talk or specific cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) techniques to challenge your thoughts, relaxation techniques to help calm the nervous system and get rid of the tension that comes with anxiety, and confronting avoidance in a graded way, rather than trying to force yourself into the most difficult situation from the start.
Other Problems That Come with Anxiety
Anxiety can occur by itself and can be the result of trauma, repeated bullying, or even a longstanding habit. In many situations, our counsellors and psychologists find that there might also be other problems going on, such as depression, insomnia, nightmares or low self-esteem. In these instances, our psychologists and counsellors can help you work through your difficulties in a supportive way so that the cause, as well as the consequences, of your anxiety are soothed.
Don’t Be Afraid to Seek Help
Regardless of what type of anxiety you are experiencing, our counsellors and psychologists can tailor a therapy suited to your personal needs that focuses on helping you deal with your anxiety symptoms. By determining the cause and impact of your anxiety, we can then focus on helping you develop coping techniques that tackle the negative thoughts, emotions, physical feelings, and behaviours that are causing your problem.
Seeking professional help, whether from your doctor or from a psychologist or counsellor, is a big step and in itself can cause anxiety. It is important to remember that you are not alone, and our experienced therapists and psychologists (based in Newcastle upon Tyne) have helped hundreds of people get on the road to recovery, one step at a time.
If anxious thoughts, behaviours and emotions are affecting your life, give us a call today on 07966 645 198.
Trust is an essential foundation for any relationship that enables strong communication and support networks to flourish and while it takes years to build up, it can be shattered in an instant. Many of our clients seeking counselling in our Newcastle-based service cite a loss of trust as their main cause for their relationship issues and contributes to more frustration and mounting feelings of loneliness for each person. However, trust can be rebuilt and with the tips below from our Newcastle Psychologist & Counselling relationship counsellor (click here to see our list of services), we can help you to work through your relationship issues.
One of the values we encourage with clients is honesty, particularly at times of difficulty. It is important to make your partner aware of trust issues, even if you think it is likely to lead to upset and/or difficult conversations. While difficult in the short-term, open discussion is a sign of trust and can help strengthen the relationship to allow for more effective communication in the future as your partner knows you are prepared to work on the relationship. It may be daunting to really be truthful, but with-holding truth about your feelings is likely to cause resentment and arguments further down the line.
Discuss, Not Accuse...
It is important that conversations are discussions, not accusations, even if you believe they have done something that you feel actively created the distrust. Share your concerns either one to one with your partner, or during a counselling session with one of our counsellors (either face to face if in Newcastle, or online) and try to keep calm. The reason for this is that accusations often provoke an emotional response and end up without resolution. Discussing your issues, either together or with our therapists and counsellors in Newcastle, will allow your open dialogue, and create a non-threatening frame in which you and your partner can look at the situation from different points of view, and lay the groundwork for a co-operative solution.
Learn from It
When seeking professional guidance from our psychologists and counsellors, you will be able to talk and have space to look at the situation from each other's perspective. Trust is different in every relationship and differently weighted to each person in the couple based on factors such as past experience, the individual's and relationship's values and understanding of the problem. Learning what trust means to each other (and yourself), how trust is gained and how to rebuild it when lost, will allow you to be more mindful and emotionally aware of your trust as a couple.
If you need help with working through trust issues, call our Newcastle counselling service - Dr Stuart Sadler (Chartered Psychologist) can help you arrange an appointment with our Specialist Couples Counsellor, or one to one should you feel there are individual problems. Call us on 07966 645 198 or message us via the contact me page to discuss your situation with our skilled psychologists and counsellors.
Now that September is here, the sun is once again behind the clouds and temperatures have taken a dip, the psychologists and counsellors at Newcastle Psychologist & Counselling often see an increased number of clients with Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD, looking for our help. The turn of winter often awakens the symptoms of this mood disorder, meaning those with SAD will experience persistent low moods, irritability, poor sleep and loss of interest in everyday life.